Obstacles and Adversity by Dr. Warner

Everyone attempting to accomplish something will inevitably experience some sort of setback.  Setbacks come with the territory of being successful.  Your mindset, whether positive or negative,  greatly influences how you respond to adversity.   Individual’s with a positive mindset expect challenges and view them as opportunities to learn.  Whereas, individuals with a negative mindset get overwhelmed with unexpected circumstances.  Usually they give up when facing difficulties.  In contrast, individuals with positive expectations press on until they are successful. Setbacks can potentially hinder your confidence in taking the necessary steps to push you closer to reaching your potential.  Here are some ways to cope with setbacks as you continue your journey.
  1. When setting out to reach your potential, it is important to understand that you will face   Your positive response to setbacks builds character and resilience, ultimately making you capable of taking on life’s difficulties.  Understand that even with good planning, you will face challenges.
  2. Facing setbacks may cause you to become disappointed. For example, you may have your heart set on a particular job or promotion, and someone else is selected for that position.  I have heard many people say they try not to get their hopes up before they interview for a job.  The truth of the matter is that you should be all in.  In reality, it is more difficult to bridle your emotions than to throw yourself all in going after something you want.  With that being said, the disappointment if you are not initially successful can be painful.  Take comfort in knowing your emotional response are normal.   Be sure to set a time limit on how long you deal with that particular feeling.  Use those same feelings and emotions as a driving force to regroup and get back on course.
  3. Learn from what did not work and change any behavior that hindered success. In the example, if you were not selected for the promotion or job, asking the interviewer what skills you did not possess or need improvement can be very helpful.  This information will help you prepare to be a better candidate in the future.  Reaching out to learn your potential shortcomings will help you to grow and prevent making the same mistake twice. Additionally, looking inward, being self aware, by looking at your quality of work, interview skills, writing skills, etc. will assist you on your journey to maximizing your potential.
-Dr. Darryl Warner (Dr. D)

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